Rebound Lesbian Relationships
Rebound relationships occur shortly after committed, long-term relationships have ended, and sometimes before the prior relationships end. It happens to almost everyone at some point. The biggest issue surrounding rebounds is whether or not they allow for grieving and most importantly healing to run its course. When this doesn’t happen, there are emotions and feelings that are left unresolved. But the general consensus is that rebounds serve a purpose, often completely self-fulfilling. Despite this, these relationships can be healthy, but that requires deep understanding and communication. Even if one rushes [face] first into a rebound they can certainly take their time within the new found relationship, making sure that extra attention is placed on areas that could be potentially troubling later on.
If you’re using your rebound to make your ex-girlfriend jealous, you’re doing something wrong. If you’re using your rebound to substitute the new for the old, you’re being completely unfair and your relationship will be laced with complications centering on the past. Enjoy it, don’t destroy it. Only you know what you need and want to make yourself happy and bring your heart peace.
Risks are abundant, but there are some things to consider to ensure the beginning stages of the relationship have enough time to slowly develop. When this happens, emotional health is still nurtured and renewed throughout the different stages. I’ve seen some couples on the rebound grow their relationships into loving bonds maintained by trust and again communication. Since the happy endings are still stereotypically in the minority, there are steps to be addressed to ensure you are taking good care of your new partner as well as yourself. Talk about what your intentions are before getting involved, stand your ground, and be clear from the start. When you’ve found the right one, she’ll understand and respect your relationship wishes. More importantly, you’ll be on the same page.
Love should be appreciated for what it was, even if it no longer is exactly as we remember it. That’s one of the tougher lessons I’ve learned to live with and incorporate into my own past and present love life. The experience as a whole shouldn’t be ruined with the interpretation of “what if’s” and dwelling on past negativity. It was enjoyable at a time and in order to live life without regret you must have hope for the future, faith in yourself, and the ability to objectively look at the situation; the good times and the bad. Appreciating or not an old or recent love for what it is or was is to accept your new reality without resentment. When you’re able to remember old times warmly without pining for or against them, you’ll know you’ve reached a new level of mental enlightenment. Feel free to share your thoughts.