Comments on: How Long Does It Take To Get Over An Affair? http://studwithswag.com/2643/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-over-an-affair/ Sex | StudwithSwag.com | Relationships | News | Politics | Current Events & Pop Culture Fri, 18 May 2012 06:44:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: jamie http://studwithswag.com/2643/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-over-an-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-3598 jamie Thu, 17 May 2012 15:59:16 +0000 http://studwithswag.com/?p=2643#comment-3598 I have been seeing a girl from work a lot younger than I which has ended after 7 years, I am married with two fab sons, it basically ended due to my constant lying saying I was going too leave,and when I eventually did it was too late. I would be lying if I said that i Had'nt found it soo exciting but when it's over I am telling you it rips you apart, I have gone back to my wife who does not deserve anything I have done to her behind her back,she does not know, but my heart is somewhere else, the problem is with me whether if I had her would I then want my wife back, I hate feeling this way and hurting people by lying and cheating. I have been seeing a girl from work a lot younger than I which has ended after 7 years, I am married with two fab sons, it basically ended due to my constant lying saying I was going too leave,and when I eventually did it was too late. I would be lying if I said that i Had'nt found it soo exciting but when it's over I am telling you it rips you apart, I have gone back to my wife who does not deserve anything I have done to her behind her back,she does not know, but my heart is somewhere else, the problem is with me whether if I had her would I then want my wife back, I hate feeling this way and hurting people by lying and cheating.

]]> By: Celine http://studwithswag.com/2643/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-over-an-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-3593 Celine Tue, 15 May 2012 13:19:18 +0000 http://studwithswag.com/?p=2643#comment-3593 infidelity is a painful experience. I remember being so angry and hurt when I found out my husband of 25 years was having an affair with a younger women. I even resorted to slapping and fighting with my now ex-husband. My pain was so heart-breaking and I felt so lost and betrayed by somebody I thought loved me. I finally decided to just let go of him and find peace. He eventually went off with another lady which he ended up marrying and leaving me on my own. I asked him for a divorce but it took him over a year before he eventually granted me one. Over the years I was somewhat disillusioned but only recently I found out my ex-husband's marriage did not work out. Even today I am still recovering and trying to learn to trust and love again all over again. One thing I know is if they truly love you they would never sleep with anyone else. infidelity is a painful experience. I remember being so angry and hurt when I found out my husband of 25 years was having an affair with a younger women. I even resorted to slapping and fighting with my now ex-husband. My pain was so heart-breaking and I felt so lost and betrayed by somebody I thought loved me. I finally decided to just let go of him and find peace. He eventually went off with another lady which he ended up marrying and leaving me on my own. I asked him for a divorce but it took him over a year before he eventually granted me one. Over the years I was somewhat disillusioned but only recently I found out my ex-husband's marriage did not work out. Even today I am still recovering and trying to learn to trust and love again all over again. One thing I know is if they truly love you they would never sleep with anyone else.

]]> By: I know http://studwithswag.com/2643/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-over-an-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-3517 I know Thu, 05 Apr 2012 14:16:45 +0000 http://studwithswag.com/?p=2643#comment-3517 If you think there were other guys, then you gut is probably right. You were just one of many. Think about it, could you ever really trust her if you were together? Your relationship started out as a lie and will always be that. The pain suck, I know, but it was not real...she was just a fantasy...what you were seeking from her, that void...find out what that is all about. If you think there were other guys, then you gut is probably right. You were just one of many. Think about it, could you ever really trust her if you were together? Your relationship started out as a lie and will always be that. The pain suck, I know, but it was not real…she was just a fantasy…what you were seeking from her, that void…find out what that is all about.

]]> By: time clocks http://studwithswag.com/2643/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-over-an-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-3474 time clocks Fri, 16 Mar 2012 08:49:52 +0000 http://studwithswag.com/?p=2643#comment-3474 First of all you should pray to God about situation. Second you should let your kids. And last of all if you want to see him again take things very slow. And let him know that his in very hot water. I guess you can call it a probation period. I hope you find this information very useful. First of all you should pray to God about situation. Second you should let your kids. And last of all if you want to see him again take things very slow. And let him know that his in very hot water. I guess you can call it a probation period. I hope you find this information very useful.

]]> By: MR.. x http://studwithswag.com/2643/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-over-an-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-3421 MR.. x Thu, 16 Feb 2012 15:11:47 +0000 http://studwithswag.com/?p=2643#comment-3421 i ended mind almost 10 years ago....Yes it can end but the feeling will stay...Friends ? don't think so.. neither of you want to cross the line again...Getting over? depends on the person and how deep is the relationship .. in my case i think it will stay till end.....my email add is adiomaxstudio@yahoo.com in case you want some one to talk to... i ended mind almost 10 years ago….Yes it can end but the feeling will stay…Friends ? don't think so..
neither of you want to cross the line again…Getting over? depends on the person and how deep is the relationship .. in my case i think it will stay till end…..my email add is adiomaxstudio@yahoo.com in case you want some one to talk to…

]]> By: hoc ncna http://studwithswag.com/2643/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-over-an-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-3374 hoc ncna Sat, 28 Jan 2012 09:45:09 +0000 http://studwithswag.com/?p=2643#comment-3374 i have a boy friend, but we not feel happy, and everytime, i want to he back. i really love him so much. i have a boy friend, but we not feel happy, and everytime, i want to he back. i really love him so much.

]]> By: hoc quan tri mang http://studwithswag.com/2643/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-over-an-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-3373 hoc quan tri mang Sat, 28 Jan 2012 09:41:26 +0000 http://studwithswag.com/?p=2643#comment-3373 thanks for sharing. sometimes, i don't what the way i feel it thanks for sharing. sometimes, i don't what the way i feel it

]]> By: heavyheart http://studwithswag.com/2643/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-over-an-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-3361 heavyheart Fri, 20 Jan 2012 23:41:51 +0000 http://studwithswag.com/?p=2643#comment-3361 How have you gotten through the separation of being away from your affair partner? How have you gotten through the separation of being away from your affair partner?

]]> By: The Other Woman http://studwithswag.com/2643/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-over-an-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-3355 The Other Woman Wed, 18 Jan 2012 16:51:03 +0000 http://studwithswag.com/?p=2643#comment-3355 Peter, I understand what you are going through. I am a single woman trying to end a 7 months affair with a married man who lives in another state. We met 20 years ago, both went on with our lives and got back in touch last summer. Due to home circumstances, he cannot leave although I know he wants desperately to be with me. And I desperately want to be with him. I wake up missing him, miss him during the day and it kills me to think I may go the rest of my life without seeing him. I've thought a lot about affairs and I'm guessing that if she left her husband you would be with her. Mostly it sounds like fear of change for both of you. After saying all that, is it really fair what your doing to your wife? I'm not saying this to condemn, but from a realistic point of view, how can you fully focus on your wife if you are missing this woman terribly? I understand that. The person I was involved with went beyond the excitement of an affair. We had a real heart-to-heart connection that I've never felt before (we're both 45 so we've been around the block.) Perhaps you need to imagine 10 years down the road with your wife and your lover. This goes against a lot of what most people believe, but if you found your soulmate, and it feels like your lost without her, shouldn't you be with her? BTW, I divorced 7 years ago. Got out of a marriage that "wasn't bad" but I really felt like I was suffocating and knew I couldn't be happy. I have no regrets over the divorce. Peter, I understand what you are going through. I am a single woman trying to end a 7 months affair with a married man who lives in another state. We met 20 years ago, both went on with our lives and got back in touch last summer. Due to home circumstances, he cannot leave although I know he wants desperately to be with me. And I desperately want to be with him. I wake up missing him, miss him during the day and it kills me to think I may go the rest of my life without seeing him.

I've thought a lot about affairs and I'm guessing that if she left her husband you would be with her. Mostly it sounds like fear of change for both of you. After saying all that, is it really fair what your doing to your wife? I'm not saying this to condemn, but from a realistic point of view, how can you fully focus on your wife if you are missing this woman terribly? I understand that. The person I was involved with went beyond the excitement of an affair. We had a real heart-to-heart connection that I've never felt before (we're both 45 so we've been around the block.) Perhaps you need to imagine 10 years down the road with your wife and your lover. This goes against a lot of what most people believe, but if you found your soulmate, and it feels like your lost without her, shouldn't you be with her?

BTW, I divorced 7 years ago. Got out of a marriage that "wasn't bad" but I really felt like I was suffocating and knew I couldn't be happy. I have no regrets over the divorce.

]]> By: cocopuff http://studwithswag.com/2643/how-long-does-it-take-to-get-over-an-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-3352 cocopuff Sat, 14 Jan 2012 23:49:07 +0000 http://studwithswag.com/?p=2643#comment-3352 i could have written this myself...Thank God for supportive, forgiving husbands. i could have written this myself…Thank God for supportive, forgiving husbands.

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