Atlanta Falcons Ovie Mughelli Outed
Then there’s this:
“I am the one who told him my being his lover could
> ruin his career, and I kept our relationship between us because he
> was right, it wasn’t anyone’s business. He is the one doing this to
> his life, not me. He is the one living the extravagent life in
> Atlanta, posing in magazines as one of the most eligible bachelors,
> dating countless women, who can confirm as I know, he has hate
> issues with women.” missjia.com
With that quoted, I don’t feel its acceptable to out anyone, except for hypocrites who privately or publicly speak out against homosexuality, or those who have adopted an “anti-gay” agenda while practicing the lifestyle on the down low. Other than that, it’s just not cool. It’s not cool when it happens to someone who is gay and isn’t out yet, and the same goes for someone who certainly has pressing public and safety concerns for not wanting to reveal themselves because it’s not just family and friends to consider, it’s an entire public spotlight. Who gives anyone the right, jilted lover or not, with the way society views homosexuality, especially among black males in a macho, alpha male environment, to out another person? Then there’s that additional knowledge that the NFL doesn’t play that. Period. So why try to ruin his career? I have sympathy for the jilted lover, but this person knew the young man wasn’t out from jump. He was vulnerable when the relationship began and as the older person with more life experience, his lover should have stopped it early on. You knew the potential ramifications of outing him in a professional environment like the NFL. You set yourself up for heartbreak, and you knew this could happen in the beginning, yet lust prevented you from going with your right mind. It takes two to tangle and you could have said no. So, what makes now so different?
He was willing to be the mistress on the side all those years, until Ovie decided he didn’t want to be associated any longer, due to whatever personal or professional reasons. Would there have been any good enough reason for Ovie to have broken off the relationship, and the lover not feel jilted in some regard? He was willing to keep the relationship with Ovie a secret as long as Ovie lived in the closet with him. It’s called breaking up people. It happens everyday for a number of reasons. Do we have the right to our emotions? Damn right we do. But, to out someone then play it off as if you’re protecting all the straight damsels in distresses of the world from sleeping with this man, is far fetched even for men on the DL, who commonly protect each other. You were okay with it while you were getting broken off a piece, but now it’s suddenly not okay because he’s breaking off your piece? If he’s not out as gay or bisexual then you outing him is vindictive.
Be wary of someone who would potentially ruin your professional career because of private relationship matters. Gay, straight or bisexual; people deserve to come out on their own terms, not anyone else’s.
This story also got me thinking about another matter altogether. It’s interesting how common it is among people with sizable incomes to sign pre-nups, in effect paying their lover off when the relationship has reached its end. It may be difficult to understand why Ovie decided to hand over an envelope filled with money, or who knows what was enclosed as it was never opened, according to the letter, conveying the final chapter in the relationship in doing so. But, it’s okay to pay off a former husband or wife to reach mutual financial agreements, but not lovers? Yeah, alright then, interesting.
Video Update – Ovie’s Ex-lover Reveals Himself On Video Via Miss Jia’s Blog. Watch Now:
According to the website, missjia.com the copyright claim made against the video is currently in dispute.