Comments on: Can You Be Friends With An Ex?

By: Linda

Linda — Mon, 27 Dec 2010 01:13:47 +0000

All exes have a selfish agenda. They want to make themselves feel better by knowing that you are still around. My ex dumped me for her ex-girlfriend with whom she was cheating with behind my back. I walked away with my head held high, a refusal to accept her offer of friendship and a strict No Contact rule. Funny, 9 months later – guess whom keeps calling my cell phone? I guess what comes around goes around. Me, I’m happy being single and have moved on. I have no intention of answering her calls. It’s her loss!

By: Knowledge

Knowledge — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 16:54:06 +0000

I agree 100%! Ha, it's funny you mention being miles apart because that definitely helps with keeping a healthy balance, keeping things in proper perspective, and checking ourselves and emotions at the door. Boundaries are the key ingredients, and communication is the tie that binds. Thank you for your comment, Teresz.

By: teresz

teresz — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 21:28:48 +0000

Yes you and your ex can be friends. Just depends on the bond that was shared in the relationship and if the relationship ended in good standing. My most recent ex is my BFF, and we have that understanding. Sometimes it helps if their a thousand miles away, lol. Its one thing to have dinner and a movie with an ex, its another to just hit em up on facebook every once in awhile. Its all about boundaries.

By: Mellogyrl

Mellogyrl — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 20:30:29 +0000

Great post!!!
Of course, once as you've said, that boundaries(ie. its understood that there is not going back & one doesn't get angry/annoyed or go ballistic if the others finds a love interest (before the other)) are set and the break up was cordial!!
But this is not as easy as the vice versa version (ie providing things keep going well) when reality hits and outside influences provide constant insight/know how/seeing signals that are not there, things can get a bit crazy!!!
For me it all boils down to how well you really knew the person, that in itself should give one some insight into which folks you can or cannot maintain a friendship with on any level!!