Comments on: Early Memories of Female Masculinity

By: weekend in newcastle

weekend in newcastle — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 05:17:05 +0000

cosidering "female masculinity" an oxymoron is the problem. it's ridiculous how masculinity is exclusive to males and femininity is exclusive to females.

By: Arlie Sola

Arlie Sola — Thu, 25 Aug 2011 03:45:32 +0000

Charles M. Schulz~ Try not to have a good time…this is supposed to be educational.

By: Jennifer Griffin

Jennifer Griffin — Fri, 10 Sep 2010 02:40:14 +0000

i’m sorry 4 being so late in keeping up with your work, Knowledge. but u know i’m truly a fan and love reading your posts. this one was great. and the responses add to it greatly. taking it much deeper.

By: Knowledge

Knowledge — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 16:21:42 +0000

You trying to take back the word butch from masculine-identified lesbians whether they be soft-hard-in between or whatever they want to be, is just as dumb as Glenn Beck trying to take back the civil rights movement from whoever the fuck he’s trying to take it back from. There is nothing to retain. You are all butch, 100% female. Good for you. Please, get a clue before you come to my blog and try to call me out in an area where life experience has dictated my thought process more than any person or book ever could. Butch women are as diverse as culture itself. There is already enough social aversion to masculine lesbian women, we don’t need it coming from within on top of that.

butch – used of men; markedly masculine in appearance or manner
(slang) offensive term for a lesbian who is noticeably masculine
(of male or female homosexuals) characterized by stereotypically male traits or appearance

masculinity – maleness: the properties characteristic of the male sex
the trait of behaving in ways considered typical for men
The degree or property of being masculine or manly; manliness

masculine – the dominant character type; biological masculinity refers to the male gender; psychological masculinity refers to the dominant character type; also used as a noun to refer to a masculine individual. synonyms: extroverted, dominant, assertive. analogs: feminine, introverted, submissive, yielding.

By: dirt

dirt — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 15:21:45 +0000

Butch women arent masculine, we are butch! Butch bodies are 100% FEMALE, NOTHING “masculine” about that! We are merely at a different area on the femininity scale, one that sadly remains hidden/ignored.

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By: Alix

Alix — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 09:58:13 +0000

I don't think I even knew that girls could look like boys at 10. You were a lot more aware than I was at that age.

By: Knowledge

Knowledge — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 17:23:58 +0000

Hey Dani, thanks so much for sharing your perspective and asking the questions that I know I've asked myself often. As it relates to studs/butches, one thing I have noticed is that if we are not okay with who we are inside, our outward projections can and will be equally misleading, but not purposely. It takes some of us awhile to get to the point where we are okay with being who we are. There's a transition that comes into play that we all go through at different stages, different ages, and it must be recognized and respected for what it is: Essential growth for the Stud/Butch generation of today.

There's a fine line between who we're attracted to, and who we're compatible with and we're all entitled to our preference. Choice is vital, it's necessary for practically everything we encounter in life, and women are no different. I know that my attractions to feminine women run the gamut. There's no resignation to one particular kind of feminine either. There is nothing sexier than a feminine woman who is also aggressive and dominant in her own regard, about whatever she wants to be, and is not afraid to show it. I'm attracted to her femininity, that primary piece, and the fact that exudes far more of it than I. As long as she is 100% comfortable with that side of herself, she passes the test.

I believe we all possess feminine and masculine traits, regardless of gender. We express the level that we feel most comfortable showing and sharing, and that's something we all have the power to dictate. It's also why the most important part of getting to know a person is what's inside their heart, mind and soul.

I don't think your judgement is inappropriate at all. We're all entitled to our standards. A woman's femininty isn't recinded just because she exudes of aggression on top of it. We often read the title to a book, which is little more than a tease, knowing full well that there is so much more than what meets the eye initially. It's the same with people, in my opinion. We're all entitled to our preferences, especially when it concerns matters of the heart.

Thanks for your comment, Dani!

By: Knowledge

Knowledge — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 16:05:06 +0000

I'm always thankful for the courage and bravery that masculine women like your dad's friend, and so many others, displayed during a time when being openly gay was dangerous in most places, and downright considered a sexual deviance mostly everywhere.

About your 3rd and 4th grade summers, ummm that is adorable as hell dude!! lol, I love it! I look back and recall having such respect for dominant women, not really knowing why at the time, but time certainly has a way of showing us the light. What these women represent/represented to me: unsung heroes/heroines, now and then.

By: Dani A

Dani A — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 15:22:02 +0000

I'm so glad you wrote about this. I have been thinking about it lately and wondering what some other thoughts on it were. I mean, I feel being open with my sexuality gives me that very freedom you wrote about to express myself. When it comes to identity I also agree that "When you know exactly who you are, who among you can tell you otherwise?" My attire/style is that of a boi and people have come to expect certain behaviors of me. But just like when you saw that truck driver, you couldn't really say whether or not she was gay or what role she may have played. It applies now. If you are attracted to feminine women and she turns out to be more aggressive than you like, have you pre-judged her and now think that it wont work? Or would you pass up a girl dressed more studly even though deep down she's as girly in behavior as they come? I ask myself these things all the time. How come I never want to be judged but I seem to do the very same thing when I'm looking for the women I like to date? Any way, thanks for the post.

By: Ang

Ang — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 09:21:03 +0000

This is great. I have a similar memory of one of my Dad's friends, who had a short haircut and wore suits like a man, she would come by our house to play cards and I always marvelled at her…and she was gay I found out in later years. But the confidence she exuded attracted something in me at a young age. So the summer between 3rd and 4th grade I cut my hair real short and spent the days riding around on my dad's riding mower shirtless and happily pretending I would grow up and marry the pretty girl next door….oh the fantasies of a young butch! Great story Knowledge!!!