Comments on: With My Eyes Wide Shut

By: Glennisha Morgan

Glennisha Morgan — Fri, 01 May 2009 23:06:53 +0000

I too have no experience in this department. I was reading Knowledge's comments about the adrenaline rush. That I can't understand. I mean I guess I do but, I can't imagine hurting someone that I love to get a rush. I've been accused of cheating before when I wasn't and that feeling is just so eirry (sp) and so not a good feeling. I don't think I could get a rush out of cheating…. After, reading your post I've seen another side of the spectrum.

By: Alix

Alix — Fri, 01 May 2009 19:14:13 +0000

You are giving me flashbacks from having been the other woman and being the girlfriend. I can relate to so many of the things you've said. I'm not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing…

By: Knowledge

Knowledge — Fri, 01 May 2009 18:15:58 +0000

Tami, I understand your pain and I can say you are absolutely right in that it is not fair what happened to you. To answer your question about how you can proclaim one thing one minute and cheat on your partner the next. Justification, lying to yourself, blocking out your conscience, pushing the hurt I knew I'd inflict on my girl out of my mind and only living from one moment to the next. It's a emotional game you play not only with yourself, but everyone involved.

By: Knowledge

Knowledge — Fri, 01 May 2009 18:04:53 +0000

I hope you never have experience in this department, Lauryn. It's not a good place to be in at the end of the day.

By: Knowledge

Knowledge — Fri, 01 May 2009 18:04:13 +0000

That's where the addiction comes in. The never-ending adrenaline rush is really due to the fact that you're doing something you aren't supposed to be doing and any feelings you might have for the other woman are heightened by a false sense of purpose. And you are right on about being blinded by the emotional needs, the guilt, the scraps you throw your partner to unburden yourself and appease them. I feel you on needing to find a woman who knows exactly what she wants. I have been so undeservedly blessed. She's out there… waiting for you. Let her come.

By: Knowledge

Knowledge — Fri, 01 May 2009 17:57:10 +0000

Although there are many reasons and opportunities, there is never ever a good one to cheat. The times I did were not one night stands, they were long-term affairs that took a lot of life from me and caused a lot of pain to my girlfriends. I took love from them and gave it to someone else. That was completely unfair to everyone. I've grown considerably. My woman and my relationship deserved better.

By: LaurynX

LaurynX — Fri, 01 May 2009 17:19:17 +0000

I have no experience in this department, but I'll say this was a good post. It seems like people always ask why do others cheat…and really there is no one reason.

By: Tami

Tami — Fri, 01 May 2009 16:16:33 +0000

i am so ultra sensitive to this issue that any comment i make would come from where i have been.
all i can say is cheating is not something i could get over easily. it is a breach of confidence, trust, respect and love. what i have never understood is how can someone proclaim to love a person and then cheat on them. if someone else is so much better then break up with the other person and go with the new chick. it's just not fair…

By: AJ the DJ

AJ the DJ — Fri, 01 May 2009 15:43:22 +0000

This so true. At the beginning of an affair..the adrenaline of love is amidst all things, until you have become blinded by the emotional needs of who you are cheating on. Then upon that, the claws of guilt encompasses your mind, so then you do a few "sweet things" for your partner to keep the guilt supressed. Like you I was "dangerously careless." However, in a bitter-sweet format, I am glad that I was able to grow and learn from it all. This is why I really need to find a woman who knows what exactly she wants and doesn't lust after others…this will only take me back to square one.

By: Nina

Nina — Fri, 01 May 2009 15:30:43 +0000

Wow. Nice confessional. So, do you think if the opportunity ever presented itself for you to have 2 again, could you resist the temptation of the cat-n-mouse play?