Comments on: The Dark Side Of Affairs Part I http://studwithswag.com/808/the-dark-side-of-affairs-part-i/ Sex | StudwithSwag.com | Relationships | News | Politics | Current Events & Pop Culture Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:21:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Knowledge http://studwithswag.com/808/the-dark-side-of-affairs-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-193 Knowledge Mon, 04 May 2009 11:43:53 +0000 http://studwithswag.com/?p=808#comment-193 I was mostly concerned with myself. I was giving my girlfriend most of my physical time, but engaged in a constant tug of war with my other woman because I wasn't giving her enough of my presense. So, I gave her more of myself emotionally and my girlfriend did begin to notice me not being there emotionally as much. But that was me compensating, giving my girlfriend more of my physical time and attention and the sexual relationships were both very much alive. So what you begin to do is concern yourself with sorting out selfish internal/external conflicts, fixing something that's already broken (cheating), dividing your time between two women and trying to maintain two different lives, two different relationships. I'll get more into feelings in Part II. I was mostly concerned with myself. I was giving my girlfriend most of my physical time, but engaged in a constant tug of war with my other woman because I wasn't giving her enough of my presense. So, I gave her more of myself emotionally and my girlfriend did begin to notice me not being there emotionally as much. But that was me compensating, giving my girlfriend more of my physical time and attention and the sexual relationships were both very much alive. So what you begin to do is concern yourself with sorting out selfish internal/external conflicts, fixing something that's already broken (cheating), dividing your time between two women and trying to maintain two different lives, two different relationships. I'll get more into feelings in Part II.

]]> By: Knowledge http://studwithswag.com/808/the-dark-side-of-affairs-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-192 Knowledge Mon, 04 May 2009 11:28:04 +0000 http://studwithswag.com/?p=808#comment-192 Yeah. There's always the incident that makes or breaks your desire to cheat. When it comes to a point where you can openly reflect on your behavior without making excuses, that's the moment. Saying once a cheater, always a cheater is like saying once the other woman, always the other woman or once the victim, always the victim. That's stupid. No more blocking off of the conscience is allowed on the cheaters part. And reflection is going to be painful because you mostly hurt yourself in the process. The behavior you speak of, guarding your heart, it's reminiscient of the damage we do to ourselves in seeing and experiencing that behavior. Thanks for giving another prespective, AJ. Yeah. There's always the incident that makes or breaks your desire to cheat. When it comes to a point where you can openly reflect on your behavior without making excuses, that's the moment. Saying once a cheater, always a cheater is like saying once the other woman, always the other woman or once the victim, always the victim. That's stupid. No more blocking off of the conscience is allowed on the cheaters part. And reflection is going to be painful because you mostly hurt yourself in the process.

The behavior you speak of, guarding your heart, it's reminiscient of the damage we do to ourselves in seeing and experiencing that behavior. Thanks for giving another prespective, AJ.

]]> By: Tami http://studwithswag.com/808/the-dark-side-of-affairs-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-191 Tami Mon, 04 May 2009 11:03:05 +0000 http://studwithswag.com/?p=808#comment-191 at the time, were you more concerned with what was going on with your "side girl" than how your current girl was feeling about all this? at the time, were you more concerned with what was going on with your "side girl" than how your current girl was feeling about all this?

]]> By: AJtheDJ http://studwithswag.com/808/the-dark-side-of-affairs-part-i/comment-page-1/#comment-185 AJtheDJ Sun, 03 May 2009 23:44:04 +0000 http://studwithswag.com/?p=808#comment-185 You know, I'm reading this entry and I kid you not this exact same thing happened to me in the year 2005...the same thing. *Sigh* I was such a fool, and considering that it has only been three years since I have committed such treason against the heart, I am proud to say that I have learned so much and I don't even try to be attracted to like situtations even if I am tempted. I just want to settle down with a real woman. And you are right about thinking that things would end on your terms because of now being blinded by the self-centered type of style, not even considering the guilt of cheating. I have also observed that my self-destructive ways of cheating in the past have caused my own self damage. Damage of which only a patient woman could understand. So here I stand, single and waiting for blessings from a forgiving Father. Sometimes my heart aches because I know what I did in the past, and now I refuse to easily give any woman my heart that easily; she has to by far be able to focus on one apple, and that apple can only fall from my tree. If she can't adhere to those terms, I keep it moving, feel me? You know, I'm reading this entry and I kid you not this exact same thing happened to me in the year 2005…the same thing. *Sigh* I was such a fool, and considering that it has only been three years since I have committed such treason against the heart, I am proud to say that I have learned so much and I don't even try to be attracted to like situtations even if I am tempted. I just want to settle down with a real woman. And you are right about thinking that things would end on your terms because of now being blinded by the self-centered type of style, not even considering the guilt of cheating.

I have also observed that my self-destructive ways of cheating in the past have caused my own self damage. Damage of which only a patient woman could understand. So here I stand, single and waiting for blessings from a forgiving Father. Sometimes my heart aches because I know what I did in the past, and now I refuse to easily give any woman my heart that easily; she has to by far be able to focus on one apple, and that apple can only fall from my tree. If she can't adhere to those terms, I keep it moving, feel me?

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