Or if I'm out by myself I'll be on the dance floor dancing with a stud and she'll suddenly start fronting like she doesn't know me when a black femme walks by. Stuff like that.

But the hardest thing about dating outside your race comes when prejudices come out of the mouth of the one you love. My last girlfriend used to say things to me like: "stop acting so Jewish." And while I was trying to stay friends with another ex she made sure that I knew that she was now going after "her own kind" now.

I can't say that I date outside my race because I'm open-minded. I've often met kind, nice, together women with a similar cultural background to me and found myself cursing my total lack of attraction to them. Somehow I just seem to be hard-wired to find brown skin and African features, and–to be honest, many aspects of black culture–attractive. I keep trying because what else can I do?

I've also noticed that there are some black women who seem to be mainly attracted to white women in the same way.

So far I have been blessed to at least find some black lesbian friends who accept me for who I am:-)
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As for me, I am open to dating the globe in all of its nuances of color, texture, tones, cultural differences, religions and anything else that denotes them as unique. Excuse me. Move over. If this table represents the vast array of female beauty and ways of being en el mundo, this is my seat.

True. Verdad. How can one not love the skin tones that flourish in one's immediate family and circle of friends, but why should that stop me from high-heeling it on across the ballroom to meet and greet someone whose deep amber skin tone beckons me, someone whose tongue clicks with another beat I've not heard on my street, but whose spirit shines on mine? I DARE not allow racial divides to stop me from embracing the spectrum of differences that the beauty of women paints for me.

So, yes, I'd date outside of my race, although I have not yet been presented with very many opportunities to do so. Huh uh, I've met a few Indians and Latinas on the web, on various social networking sites, but they are frequently located across the country. They check in every now and again to coo and chat and regal and exchange serious thoughts from time to time. I am opening myself to meeting the rainbow where I am, right here in the ATL, and perhaps learn to speak another tongue under her tutelage.

Oh, I dated a Hawaiian stud once. She was a joy, who posted dream catchers over her bed and taught her cat to understand a few of her native phrases. And, hmmmm, I recently enjoyed a meet and greet with a Chinese dancer from Cally. Estaba muy interesante, es cierto!

Well, I'm off to the races to net sunshine as I exercise on Stone Mountain!

Besos y bendiciones,

Negative experiences and racial dating patterns. Yeah, I can see why you don't see a correlation. Neither do I, lol, which is probably a result of me getting caught up in my earlier replies. Sorry about the confusion with that.

I wanted to highlight "uncomfortable situations" instead of negative experiences because I feel that people need to sometimes put themselves into uncomfortable situations where they stand to benefit positively.

Viewing interracial relationships in a negative light because of ones own internal, deep seated, baggage is something that can be changed. These behaviors and attitudes aren't set in stone, but experience and time can teach better.

As far as racial dating preferences, in all honestly, to each her very own.