Comments on: The Epitome Of A Stud

By: Lorraine

Lorraine — Sat, 30 Apr 2011 06:09:59 +0000

Go for it,such a lovely article.Even if who we are, we should not let other people trample our dignity.I really appreciate all the thought you just share on us.I do have a lot of friends and colleagues that are lesbian homosexual and i really love to have them as one of my friend.As long as you don't do anything bad,you are all great people.Such a great article.

By: Emily

Emily — Mon, 04 Apr 2011 21:27:29 +0000

Very well put

By: natasha dyer

natasha dyer — Thu, 09 Sep 2010 11:14:54 +0000

my thoughts EXACTLY! my overwhelming feeling throughout the reading and towards the end was that i wish that i could post this on some kinda FACEBOOK BILLBOARD!!! this was a great read and i applaud you! i've been needing to hear something like this for some time now…and it's right on time!

take care! and when it gets dark (in that muddled land of studs who emulate the men they are not) remember that this femme loves you and appreciates your unwavering belief in what is the right behavior between WOMEN who love women. equal respect and LOVE!

By: Knowledge

Knowledge — Mon, 23 Aug 2010 13:24:38 +0000

Thanks so much for appreciating the message found within. Better late than never!

By: Shay

Shay — Mon, 23 Aug 2010 03:06:45 +0000

I know that i’m quite late in reading this but i must applaud you for putting into words some of the things that some of us are unable to vocalize. The message in this post is something that the masses definitely need to see and absorb and i commend you for it.

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Mon, 05 Apr 2010 20:46:18 +0000

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By: bfears

bfears — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 01:22:36 +0000

this was beautiful & well written. standing ovation. thank u.

By: Chichi aka Dstud

Chichi aka Dstud — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 17:30:20 +0000

Damn u need to be ma english teacher bro:)

i feel u, em rules r unecessary, just be urself, wear wat u feel comfortable in…like i tell ppl dat throw qs of why i dress like a dude, i dress like me, i wear wat i feel comfortable in, as a matter fact em so called "dudes" throw out salute for recognizing swag, dey demselfs cant pull dat off. we shld stop trinda see ourselves or trinda act like "dudes" its like we competing wit dem n dats not wat dis is bout…

got a question fam, why does some studs beat up dere girl?

By: Knowledge

Knowledge — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 13:22:06 +0000

Thanks so much for sharing your feeling on this one fam, I truly appreciate it. The thing with the label is that they are descriptors and in my opinion, they are necessary. We use labels for absolutely everything in life, so picking and choosing is sort of out of the question for everyone. If a label doesn't fit my advice is to continue educating people about who YOU are keeping it moving. Just because a label doesn't apply to someone doesn't make it useless. I think one of the biggest issues within the lesbian community is not so much with the labels and their uses, but mainly with the "rules" that are often applied and associated with the label itself. The primary rule to apply is tolerance and acceptance of everyone, including those who ascribe to labels. Once we stop restricting people within their own set identity, lack of understanding across the board should apply. As a community, we embrace diversity, not try to bury it just because a word doesn't apply to us.

Thank you again, Chichi. I appreciate your thoughts!!

By: Chichi aka Dstud

Chichi aka Dstud — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 15:50:07 +0000

*throws out a big salute* wow! u said it all fame…wat i still dont understand is d “label” dis is d biggest prollem we have in our community…we all women, bein masculine or dressing differently don’t change dat, dey even got d rules we have to leave by a stud’s “does/doesnt” wtf?…its so sad how females categorize us as d same cos of dere experiences wit studs, giving us d inoccent ones bad image. like u said, its like a competition for majurity of us studs forgetin dat ppl’s feelings r involved.
mad props homie, we need more ppl like u in our community.
pardon ma bad English:)
Chichi