Preparing To Be A Lesbian Dad
les•bi•an dad n, neologism 1. a. A lesbian or genderqueer parent who feels that traditionally female titles (i.e., “mother”) don’t quite fit, and who is willing to appropriate and redefine existing male ones (i.e., “father”): She was a tomboy when she was a kid, so it’s not surprising she’s a lesbian dad as a parent. [...]
Black Women’s Interracial Dating Woes
I’ve been working on two blogs for awhile now. The first is about black women and interracial dating, the second is about race and culture and what I feel is a growing disconnect within the lesbian community. They are equally touchy subjects and since I’m one the few that has stepped outside the comfort of my cultural [...]
Lost In Thought
Today, I sit and contemplate, and wonder to myself because my mind takes me all over the place on days like this. I dig deep within and get frustrated at the direction the world is moving in. I look at culture and politics, status and class, social-networking and relationships and I’m left with anger and frustration that I [...]
Dream Girl
There is this image of you.. one of the very first, at least. I wanted to rip off that little nightie you had on with ease, but I didn’t. You were kind of leaning against the wall waiting for me to pass you by. I didn’t look at you as I walked, but I could feel you with my eyes. Yours were staring into [...]
Baby Steps: Bits And Pieces Of My Weekend
Having your current girlfriend and ex together in the same room is not as awkward as most people think.I’m not sure why it’s so unpleasant for most people, but I think a lot of it has to do with the depth of the relationships, the personality and characteristics of the women and the luck factor of [...]
My Aries Taurus Cusp Has A Moon in Aquarius
My longest relationships have been with Tauruses. There is this deep, formidable, sensual reciprocity that knocks me off my feet with every connection. These bonds have withstood the test of time. There is no rushing in or out of relationships with Taurus women because affection and devotion come easy after love and trust is established, but [...]
Introducing Rebel & Rene
After a conversation with an ex about where our relationship went wrong, I realized that we had to be in two different relationships. How could her version be so different from mine? Well, when they say there are two sides to every story, people are telling you the truth.
I have partnered with [...]
Honoring My Woman
It’s not always easy to be the person I want to be. And sometimes it’s hard for you to understand what I’m feeling. At times, I can be the most charming, loving person to be around, but there are times when I’m distant, content with the isolation that surrounds. And it makes you reserved and sad. But there’s [...]
Early Memories of Female Masculinity
One summer I stood outside of a highway rest area with my siblings. A big 18-wheeler rolled into the lot and parked. The driver hopped down and after securing his truck he headed toward the entrance where we stood. There was nothing distinct about his walk. Nothing special. He wore a pair of blue jeans, a plaid shirt and some work boots. His head was shaved into a buzz cut.
To this day, [...]
From Smooth Operator To Soldier Of Love
I listened to Sade’s new joint ’Soldier Of Love’ on my way to work this morning. I drove as my girl sat on the passenger side and did something she hasn’t done in ages … I honestly can’t even remember how long it’s been since she let her seat back and just laid back and relaxed the entire trip. She’s normally a [...]
