What Are Your Relationship Expectations?

While reading the blog A Brown Girl Gone Gay, one of Alix’s entries captured my attention. It’s the one titled Love With Expectations and it’s a great post that touches on one of the most important aspects of any relationships longevity. That is the ability to examine, evaluate and meet each other’s expectations, which are next to impossible to love without. That doesn’t mean expectations […]

Unconditional Love and Self-Forgiveness

The excitement that goes into carrying on an affair is worlds apart from the emotions found within a long-term, committed relationship. Long-term relationships take work, and include some of the less attractive attributes such as taking care of the household finances, cooking, cleaning, keeping the passion alive and sharing responsibilities. By its very nature, an affair tends to […]

Can You Be Friends With An Ex?

It’s not a difficult pursuit unless the relationship ended so badly there is absolutely no chance of reconciliation. Cultivating a true friendship after the romance is dead is especially difficult if the relationship was one dimensional throughout, i.e., the physical attraction overpowered an intense emotional connection that could have been established. If the friendship was solid prior to the onset of romance, then retaining it is likely to complicate […]

Real Talk Pt. II

See you still ain’t scratched that selfish itch See you still ain’t stopped me from being a hopeless romantic Ticked off cause my love gave you a number I kept you idle for hours while away messages soothed your wonder Told you I was no good for you Yet you refused to let go Figured […]

Domestic Violence In Lesbian Relationships

Lesbians in abusive relationships obviously feel affection for their partner or they wouldn’t be with them. I don’t know many women who would let someone they don’t love physically or emotionally assault them. I  know plenty however that do not know their own worth. I can count on both hands and half a foot the number of women I […]

The Dark Side Of Affairs Part II: Karma

I sent her an e-mail that Monday. It was sappy and ridiculous and nevertheless I asked for a reply and she assured me she would send one. I didn’t get a reply all week until Friday rolled around and still nothing until the phone call later that day. She wanted to discuss something. By that […]

With My Eyes Wide Shut

The other woman and the girlfriend have one major thing in common in common when it comes to lesbian affairs. A woman who is lying to them both. Not only are affairs addictive, the lying becomes so commonplace that after a while it’s almost second nature. You begin to comfortably do or say whatever is […]

Once, Twice, Three Times A Cheater

I remember the first time I started a blog with the intention of writing down the thoughts that haunted me for some time after my affair had ended. My thought process was complicated, mixed up with emotions, and all over the place. I figured it would help to write about what I couldn’t yet talk […]