The Dark Side of Affairs IV

I was recently asked by a reader of my blog:  How or what did you read or do in order to initially get it together!? I met my karma head on. After all, it was mine – I earned it, I deserved it, I knew it was coming and so I braced and prepared myself for the […]

Unconditional Love and Self-Forgiveness

The excitement that goes into carrying on an affair is worlds apart from the emotions found within a long-term, committed relationship. Long-term relationships take work, and include some of the less attractive attributes such as taking care of the household finances, cooking, cleaning, keeping the passion alive and sharing responsibilities. By its very nature, an affair tends to […]

When The Mistress Feels Cheated

To ensure there was no doubt he spelt it out: “I was unfaithful, I had affairs, I cheated. What I did was unacceptable. – Tiger Woods You know something is wrong when the mistress feels more cheated than the girlfriend or wife. The very definition of cheat[ing] in comparison to the nature of a committed relationship presents one hell of a messy contradiction. More telling is when the other woman feels […]

The Dark Side of Valentine’s

There is a dark side to Valentine’s Day that usually takes place the day of or the night before that special day. It’s the time most cheaters choose to spend with their mistresses. The reason for this is simple. Waiting until the day after V-Day is too obvious and the last thing they want her to think is that […]

How Long Does It Take To Get Over An Affair?

Topic Request: From the perspective of the cheater, how long does it really take to get over an affair?   I’ve been reluctant to post new material about cheating and affairs. I worry people will think, “Is dude still going on about this shit?” I’ve received numerous e-mails with questions on the subject of infedility, and this one in particular stands out […]

A Cheater’s Guide To What’s In A Name

Woman cheats on girlfriend. Woman gets caught. She survives a couple months of hell and after a year, maybe, she’ll eventually overcome. If she holds on and proves she’s truly sorry then the incident goes to show that the wake up call was alarming. There’s nothing standing in her way except her girlfriend and all […]

The Confrontation: Part III

By the end of part II I had made it up the four flights of stairs to her apartment. I knocked a few times and then turned the key. I was determined and I had no idea what was in store, I just remember walking toward the sofa and not going any further. I knew […]

The Dark Side Of Affairs Part I

A lot had happened since the big “breakup”. Some for the better and some for the worse. For the worse, I did something  that I didn’t think I had the heart to do. Actually, it’s something I didn’t think I would ever really need to do so let’s just be clear on that. My ex-girlfriend […]

With My Eyes Wide Shut

The other woman and the girlfriend have one major thing in common in common when it comes to lesbian affairs. A woman who is lying to them both. Not only are affairs addictive, the lying becomes so commonplace that after a while it’s almost second nature. You begin to comfortably do or say whatever is […]